I want to do marriage the good old fashioned outdated bible way. I want to be my husbands biggest cheerleader. I want him to be happy to come home because he knows a warm home cooked meal is waiting for him(well most days at least). I want him to know that I respect and love him.
I choose to magnify his strengths and pray like crazy concerning his weaknesses. I want him to share his heart with me without hesitation or fear that I may judge him. I want my actions to make him fall in love with me over and over again. I want him to still be happy that he chose me to be his bride even after 13 years of marriage. Now while the feminist may scoff at this and render me as a weak and needy woman, the bible says the opposite! And oh, for the record I am so weak and needy, and admitting this has been so liberating and brought a greater level of intimacy between me and God and my husband (2 Corinthians 12:9). Nevertheless I digress, back to the topic at hand. Have you ever read the bible and the words just leap off the page and you can hardly contain yourself because you finally get it? I recently read Proverbs 31. Yeah that same passage that challenges us women in so many ways. It's amazing because often times when this passage is discussed, the focus is on all this woman DOES as opposed to who SHE IS! I find it interesting that the passage doesn't open up with all her deeds, instead, it first highlights how her husband feels about her. "Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.
HER HUSBAND CAN TRUST HER, AND SHE WILL GREATLY ENRICH HIS LIFE. "Proverbs 31:10-12.
I must admit that I have not always proven myself to be trustworthy to my husband.
No I have
never ran off with another man but I I have done a lot of running with my mouth. I have never had issues with telling him what I thought he was doing wrong, what was wrong with him and what he needed to do better. When I was done I would expect him to trust me with his thoughts. In short I was a being a nag! I felt very justified in my nagging. I must praise God for his grace because He has brought me from a very loooooooooooong way. Let all the "expressive" ladies say amen! I have already confessed in a previous post that I love to talk but I am learning the delicate art of knowing when to speak and when to be silent. I don't have to stop talking, I just take my chatting party to God in prayer. I must confess that sometimes as he is speaking, everything in me is screaming, "I CANT BELIEVE YOU SEE IT THIS WAY or HOW CAN YOU THINK LIKE THAT!" However, as I am learning to hold my peace and not always play therapist in our discussions, my husband is sharing more of his unedited thoughts with me. And you know what, I find that when I listen, REALLY LISTEN he is more willing to solicit my advice and comments and a greater level of trust is developed. And it sure is easy to love somebody you trust, dont you think?
It's so obvious that God is showing us a to be a Godly wife. You and I didn't even speak to one another and he gave me the same thing in a way that I could understand it, but never the less focusing on our husbands and how we should be as Godly wives, on Saturday after the marriage fellowship God really dealt with me. It was so heavy upon my heart for us to pray for our husbands and ask God to give you understanding about they day cause they are the first one to leave out the house to face there work day. I was able to share it with Pastor Cheri Sunday after church that God wanted us to pray for our husbands and on Tuesday night prayer line we were able to do just that God is awesome always sending conformation to his word.
ReplyDeleteyes, it is awesome how God confirms his word! Gotta love him!
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